I have long been convinced that the world is divided between people who enjoy being the center of attention and people who hate being the center of attention. Both my son and I are in the second category, as are most members of my family. Additionally, neither my son nor I like to dance and we most especially don’t like to dance if other people are watching. Which means that we have a bit of a dilemma on our hands, since his wedding is just a little over a month away and that means we are going to be expected to do the traditional mother/son dance at the reception.
My son has already informed me he doesn’t want to do the mother/son dance, and I completely understand why he feels that way. I know that the dances are a way of giving the parents of the couple who are getting married a special time with their son or daughter on this very important day, and I admit that I would like to have that moment with my son. I just don’t see why the tradition has to be limited to dancing. There are other options, in my opinion.
Personally, I like the idea of a mother/son cake eating. At some point during the reception my son and I could sit down at a table together and enjoy a piece of wedding cake. It would be that special “mother and son moment,” and I would even have a chance to pass on some valuable marriage advice, such as “the wife is always right.” (That one has served me well, lo these many years.) I don’t think we’d even mind if others watched while we were enjoying our cake, as both of us are actually good at cake-eating.
Sadly, I doubt very much if I’ll be able to talk anyone into going along with my idea, so that brings me back to the question of whether or not we will be doing the mother/son dance. For a long time, I agreed with my son and thought that I would really rather not do the dance at all, especially when I wasn’t sure if the bride and her father were going to be doing their traditional dance. But they are doing the dance, and I know it will be a beautiful memory for both of them. There’s something very special about the wedding of a son or daughter, and I think the tradition of the dance is meant to acknowledge that.
So while I am not a good dancer and I know I will be nervous with just my son and I out there on the dance floor, I have decided that I would like to do the mother/son dance at my son’s wedding. I will search for a song that is very, very, easy to dance to and that is also (and more importantly) very, very, short. I may even ask the DJ to dim the lights so that people sitting a few tables away won’t be able to see us. But I will do the dance, because I do want to have that moment with my son and to publicly acknowledge how happy I am that he is getting married and that his fiancé is going to be an official part of our family.
Now I just have to figure out a way to break the news to my son……